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llrmag

Misbehaving outside the classroom.

I have a very gifted, high-level thinker, 7 year old son who has been on the A-honor roll in a Christian private school for 2 years. He has no problem behaving in the classroom, but loses all self-control on the playground and in the bathroom. He is getting in a lot of trouble and I'm afraid he has already been labeled. Any insight?



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Only2boys

Problems in unstructured situations... impulsive... lack of self-control... my guess ADHD. Just my two cents.

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llrmag

Thanks for that advice but, as a nurse, I would expect to see at least some of the same behavior inside the class. He is a very careful little boy, not impulsive unless he's around other little boys. He is definitely not hyperactive. I think he might be a little insecure around the other boys and might be trying to impress or fit in.

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2xstepmom

Possibly, but if that is the case, are the rest of the boys he is trying to "fit in" with also getting into trouble?

The 5 y/o boy I nanny is an angel in the classrom but a wild child on the playground. He has a lot of excess energy from holding it together in the classroom, then at recess he runs around karate chopping and kicking the air and chasing with the other boys. None of them have ever gotten in trouble for their behavior as you state your son has.

It may be difficult for you, but the possibility exists that your son could have an issue that needs to be addressed. Many of the children with whom I work can hold it together in one environment but not so well in others. This is common in ADHD children. Insecurity could be a factor but is probably not the underlying issue here. For your son's sake a professional unbiased assessment seems appropriate to see if it is ADHD and find out why he is behaving as you state.

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Only2boys

I agree 2Xs.

As a teacher I've seen this happen with several children. I also have a gifted ADHD son who has had more problems in these types of situations then in the classroom. My dr. told me her son they finally diagnosed as ADHD. He couldn't stop touching people in the hallway, but behavior was fine in the classroom. His father is a pediatrician who specializes in ADHD as well. ADHD can be tricky to diagnose sometimes.

It wouldn't hurt talking to your son's dr. about the behaviors your son is presenting. Good luck.

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