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amyd

kindergarten problems

My 5 year old son started kindergarten this fall.  After the first two weeks, his teacher began reporting an ever growing laundry list of behavior problems: walking around, talking, whistling - which eventually grew to include tantrums and refusing to do his work.  At the same time, she told us that he was very bright and creative and completely capable of doing his school work without assistance from her.  (her goal is that everyone in class should be reading at beyond a 1st grade level by the end of the year).

Yesterday, my husband I met with her and she continued the complaints - he does'nt get along with other children and can not work in a group.  (The school is a fairly rigid parochial school).  She asked us how his behavior was at home and we honestly told her that he is not perfect, but that crying and tantrums were not at all normal.  We also said that he played with other kids and had no particular problems.  She then explained that his classroom behavior was in no way typical and she was very very concerned.  She also indicated that he would not be advanced to 1st grade unless there was significant improvement.  She offered nothing in the way of advise except a rewards based chart.  Is there something else that could help...I want to switch him to a less academically focused school,  but my husband thinks that that would be sending the wrong message to our son.  He is busy, happy, and very bright.  I want him to stay excited about school and not associate it with daily failure.  Thanks for any advise you can offer.  I am very upset about the entire situation.



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acitez

I'd go in and see what is going on in the classroom. Perhaps put the problem back in the teacher's lap, find out what has happened at school to inspire such out-of-character behavior in your child.

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concerned mom

Definitely take acitez's advice and observe your son in his class. If the school gives you a problem, get an outside professional to observe him. We were told we weren't allowed in our son's class due to security reasons. However, a professional cld enter the classrm and conduct an observation. Ridiculous, I know, but apparently the rules of the school.
Sounds like your son is having a problem adjusting to his class, whether it be a problem w/ the teacher or a student, or whatever. Try to get to the bottom of the situation. If all else fails, you can always consider switching schools or homeschooling your son.
If, after trying these other options, your son's behavior still hasn't changed, you might want to consider having him evaluated privately. It's probably just an age thing since your son is not acting this way at home, but it wouldn't hurt to rule out any other concerns.
I hope this helps. Best of luck to you and your son.