I got a phone call from one of my 8 year old daughter's friend's father. He said my daughter called and left 4 very rude messages on his daughter's cell phone. The messages varied from saying "I hate you and you ruined my day" to "you better find a new school, and don't try out for the talent show because your voice is horrible,and everyone will laugh at you" My daughter said all this just because the girl bought the same boots my daughter just got a couple days before. I know my daughter was in the wrong for this, so I made her write and apology to her friends father, and she is spending the evening in her room, with no TV, or phone privileges. Where my problem lies, is what to do about the overall situation these girls have been "friends" since kindergarten, but they have this love hate relationship. Actually the friend really loves my daughter, but my daughter doesn't really feel the same. She says the friend is always copying her, and telling lies about her to other peers. I told my daughter she doesn't have to be friends with her, but she does have to be cordial, and respectful. She says that her teachers said they have to be friends, and put them in a friendship counseling group at school. I don't know what to do, I don't really feel it's fair to be forced to be friends with somebody, even if they are just kids, these two girls just do not get along. As adults we get to choose our friends. Should she be forced to be friends with this girl, and should I be forced to have to hear the drama everyday about what the girl did because they are forced to hang out with one another??