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RickeshaLin

HE WONT COMPROMISE ON HER NAME.. UGHH!! HELP ME..

I need help!! I'm 35wks preggo with my 2nd child & its a girl!!! My partner and I both have children from a previous relationship.He has a daughter and I have a son. We were both single parents for a long time and this baby is kind of like a bonding of our families.Problem is he will not compromise the name for our daughter. He is in love with the name Izabella, of course because his name is Izaile. However, I like the name but don't love it. I like the name Reese.. but I'm open for cuter names. I want to love the name of my 1st daughter not jus settle for a name he's forcing on us. Please help me by suggesting pretty names for a baby girl.



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mayamay
Personally, I find Izabella a lot prettier than Reese, which is a surname, like Smith or Cochran. The Isabella that I know is a gorgeous, tall 14-year old whose family and friends call her Bella.
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RickeshaLin
Thanks, it is a pretty name I agree.. Its not common for our ethnicity which is African American. Everyone cringes when I say it. But I think maybe im being even more resistent because he is being so demanding about the name for our daughter!!
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mayamay
So, is your first name really Rickesha?
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RickeshaLin
Yes!!
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mayamay
I looked it up--it's a very unusual name--means powerful leader. I guess my point of view is that a name really means what you make of it. If you just hated the name--had a bad experience with an Izabella you had known, then I'd say it might be worth the fight. The person I had the worst relationship with when I was in Elementary school was named Jamie. Then, my 2nd daughter had a dear friend named Jamie. When my 4th daughter was born--we named her Jamie. I know you're not supposed to have favorites--she's my favorite.
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RickeshaLin
Merry Christmas!! Thanks for looking it up,I never knew my name had a meaning primarily because my aunt made it up. My dad's name is Ricky so that's how she came up wit it. I don't know any Izabellas, white and especially not black. But I'm still thinking about names, do you like Zoe or Zoey?
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mayamay
I'm not the one who's going to have to use the name. I don't think it would hurt to give her a name her daddy loves--especially if he's not going to formalize his relationship with you. I think you will love your baby, and I think you will love whatever name she has.
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justadoubikin1
What did you name her? I ask because I had that same problem over the same name during my prenancy, he wanted to name her Isabella after his grandmother, I just could not see us producing a child that fit that name. Mine is four years old now and yes I lost that battle, and hate my daughter's name. I gave in because of the familys' love for their deceaced grandmother only to find out they didn't even know her real name! I hope if you felt as strongly as I did, and it sounds like you did, you didn't give in to his oversized ego!
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Claire Kellock
I think that a name should be liked by both parents. Thank your lucky stars that he isn't insisting on "Gertrude"